Relationship Abuse of an Intimate Nature (RAIN)

I’d like to share with you why the RAIN program has been so important in my life.

Fourteen months ago my situation was not so desperate that I felt I required any protection. Over the decade of my relationship, like a frog in a pot of cold water on a stove, I was unaware of the slow heat building up; the erosion of my self-esteem and person.

I went twice to the doctor for depression in the previous six years.

I was in a very complex web and didn’t see a clear path out until I was referred to RAIN. At first I thought I wasn’t suitable for the program because my partner never actually hit me. But after learning more about domestic abuse, I realised that I actually was being abused.

I refused to medicate myself and I struggled on with trying to adjust, change my attitude, work harder, be better… yet still nothing I did was good enough. I felt that everything that went wrong was due to my actions or inactions.